Building a personal relationship with Jesus is the most important step after you’ve surrendered your life to Him. If you haven’t done that yet, let me encourage you to visit my post on How Can I Know Jesus. If you’ve followed the steps to salvation, then this post is aimed to teach you how to have a personal relationship with Jesus simply by taking it one day at a time.
One Day At A Time
Many new Believers and even those who have believed for years, often miss the most important step of being a child of God. But that is not how God intended it. He wants us to know Him in an intimate way. He wants us to have a relationship with Him that is real and personal. In The Bible John 10:10b Jesus said, “…. I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” This is evedence that Christ has so much more for us than we could ever think or imagine. Yet, without a personal relationship with Him, we miss out on all that He has for us.
By taking just a few small steps each and every day, you can have a personal relationship with Jesus. Many of you may have heard the old Gospel song “One Day At A Time Sweet Jesus” If you haven’t, here are just a few lyrics from this song:
One day at a time sweet Jesus
That’s all I’m asking from you.
Just give me the strength
To do everyday that I have to do.
Yesterday’s gone sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine.
Lord help me today, show me the way
One day at a time.
I especially like the last verse – “Lord help me today, show me the way, one day at a time.” If we come to Jesus with a sincere heart and ask Him to help us live for Him one day at a time, He will hear and answer us.
Jesus can and wants to change your life one day at a time.
Define Personal Relationship
Think about someone you love. It might be your spouse, your child, your parent or a close friend. Now think about the relationship you have with that person. Did you have that special relationship the moment you met them? The day you met your spouse, did you already have a relationship? The day you were introduced to what is now your best friend, did you automaticlaly have a relationship with them? We know the answer to that is no, of course not. Then why would we think that having a personal relationsip with Jesus would be any different? Yes we are saved immediately when we call on His name and yes we are bound for Hevean and yes, we receive the power of the Holy Spirit living in us immediately upon salvation. But, like with any other relationship, we cannot know Jesus Christ in an intimate way unless we spend time with Him.
I can’t know what my husband wants or needs if I never take the time to talk to Him. I can’t know how to make him happy if I never take the time to listen. I can’t be the kind of wife I should if I am not willing to spend the time to get to know my husband and his needs, wants, desires, likes and dislikes. It’s not possible. The same holds true with our relationship to Christ.
Steps To Building A Relationship With God
As with anything we set out to do or learn, we must start with baby steps. When we become a new Believer, we’re excited and want to tell the world about Jesus and His love and what He’s done for us. But as I’ve already pointed out, we cannot skip the relationship. This is where we begin those baby steps.
Read the Bible Daily
If you don’t own a Bible, you can pick one up at any department store or online. If you’re short on cash, they’re even sold at dollar stores for just one dollar. If that’s not an option, ask – anyone would be glad to give you a Bible.
Don’t be concerned with how to read the Bible or even where to start. Just think simple. Pick it up and start reading. The beginning is always a good place. For after all, that is where it all starts. You’ll learn a lot about God in the first book of the Bible – Geneses.
The Bible is broken up into two sections. The Old Testament and The New Testament. The Old Testament written before Jesus was born; the New, written during and after his birth. I personally like to read a little from both Old and New each day. You’d be surprised how God can tie the two readings together even though they were written thousands of years apart.
Don’t get hung up on how much you read or how long. The important thing here is that you get in a daily habit of reading His Word.
Don’t get discouraged if you don’t understand it at first -or at all. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you teach you the deep meanings of His word. With time, you will begin to understand more and more. Eventually, the words on the pages will often times seem to jump off the pages! Reading God’s Word is an exciting and crucial part of growing in the Lord and having a personal relationship with Jesus.
Prayer is where battles are won. The Bible is full of such examples. In the Book of Isaiah for example, Sennacharib, the terrible King of Assyria came up against all the fortified cities of Judah and took them. Jerusalem was left isolated against hundreds of thousands of armed Assyrian soldiers. Hezekiah went straight to God and prayed. Thus, 185,000 enemy soldiers were destroyed. Let me repeat – Prayer is where battles are won!
Like with reading the Word, don’t get hung up on what to pray about. Stop and ask God -ask the Holy Spirit to teach you how to pray. The disciples asked Jesus that very thing in Luke 11: 1
It happened that while [a]Jesus was praying in a certain place, after He had finished, one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray just as John also taught his disciples.”
Remember, you are now a child of God so, you can talk to God in a personal way because He is your Heavenly Father. He loves you and wants to hear from you. Just start talking and the Holy Spirit will lead you in the rest.
Don’t get hung up on feeling like you have to pray long, meaningless prayers with fancy “King James” words. Don’t misunderstand, I am not knocking the King James Bible however, it was written several hundred years ago in the King’s English. It’s doubtful you’ll find anyone living today who talks this way! So, why would you need to talk to God this way? Again, your prayers are intimate conversations between you and The Lord. No need to flower it up – He knows what you’re going to say even before you say it.
“It will also come to pass that before they call, I will answer; and while they are still speaking, I will hear.” Isaiah 65:24
Spend Time Alone with God without Distractions
It’s important that you make a designated time and place to spend with God each day. Again, it doesn’t have to be long – it just has to be – Take a small closet and turn it into a prayer closet. Or, use a spare bedroom or exercise room or office. Or maybe your kitchen table is where you’ll want to meet Him.
TURN OFF YOUR CELL PHONE – AND TV – This is so important. See if you can leave your cell pone in another room. The enemy will cause distractions because as we’ve learned, battles are won in prayer. The enemy is fearful when Christians begin to pray and read the Word and listen and obey the Holy Spirit. So naturally, he will cause distractions wherever he can and the cell phone with all the social media and text messages, is one of the biggest.
Listen for God to speak through The Holy Spirit. John 10:27 says,
“My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me”
Yes, you really will be able to discern the voice of God after spending time with Him day after day. Like you know the voice of your children no matter where you are in a crowd of a hundred kids, you’ll learn how to know His voice. Don’t expect to hear a loud, audible voice – though God can do what He wants – He tells us in His Word that he speaks in a still, small voice. You’ll read about it in I Kings 19: 11-12
Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; 12 and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice.
The first time you hear that still, small voice, you’ll question if it’s really God. Could the God of the Universe actually speak to me? Oh yes my friend, He can and He does. Just listen and you’ll begin to hear.
Walking With Jesus Daily
Once you’ve gotten into a habit of doing just these 4 simple steps, you’ll be amazed at how quickly your relationship with Christ will grow! There really is no other way to have a relationship with Jesus. There is no formula or text book really, just simple habits; Read your Bible daily, Pray Daily, Set aside a special time to meet with God daily and listen for Him to speak through the Holy Spirit.
Jesus said Himself in John 15:4,
“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit [a]of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.”
My prayer is that this article will help you get started on your way with an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ that is real and personal.
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